“Affirmations don’t work for me!” I’ve heard that phrase a lot!
It usually turns out that the way the affirmations were being used or how they were created were simply just not effective.
There’s definitely more to it then the average person thinks! If you’re new to affirmations, check out this post to see why they’re important!
Here’s a few tips and tricks on creating truly effective affirmations:
Check the Energy!
Why do you want what you’re asking for? Does your desire come from a positive place or negative one? Fear or love?
This is VERY important. The catalyst or mechanism of creating through affirmations is the ENERGY of the desire.
If your underlying desire comes from a place of fear or negativity, then no matter how the affirmation is worded, the energy is what comes through.
I can affirm “I will meet my soulmate this year.”
But, if I want that soulmate based upon an underlying fear of being alone, then the mate I get – IF I get one at all – may not be my Prince Charming, but the frog instead.
Start with gratitude! Gratitude is the best stepping off point for creating any affirmation since its always positive.
Affirmations require positive thinking to be effective. So, even if it’s something you have already, use it to train your mind to be a positive one.
Example: “I am blessed with a job that allows me to provide for my family.”
If you don’t believe it, it’s not going to happen or if it does happen, it’s likely only a temporary experience.
Be in the energy of what you’re manifesting.
You have to be in alignment with the energy of how it feels, not what it is.
If you can’t really believe what you’re writing, consider baby steps to get there. Start with willingness.
Example: “I am willing to experience a relationship based on mutual respect and love.”
It’s all about You!
“My husband gets a higher paying job” isn’t about you directly and therefore will not be effective.
Affirmations must be about you and only you.
Example: “I am always provided for.”
Focus on the feeling!
Leave “the How” out of it. That’s the Universe’s job. Our job is only to define how we want to feel and then Trust and Allow it to come to us.
Everything happens in Divine Timing.
Everything that comes is always in our highest and greatest good even if at that moment it doesn’t feel like it. Trust in the love that flows directly to you from the Universe at every. single. moment.